Often times people ask for shit they really aren’t ready for. They aren’t ready for unconditional love because they haven’t fully accepted who they are without all of the gimmicks. They aren’t ready for that manager position because it takes so much dedication, innovative ideas and time out of their lives. Nor are they ready for feedback on areas of opportunity in their lives, because they rarely feel as though what they’re doing needs a tune up.
For years I wouldn’t ask for honest opinions/feedback because I didn’t realize how it could truly help me. For years I thought people’s words were bullshit and they didn’t hold weight and weren’t helpful. Once I realized who and how this can help me I started asking away.
Asking for things can:
• Help you grow mentally, physically and even financially.
• Help you expand your artistry, business or career.
• Give your eyes a different perspective to see the world differently.
Anyhoo…
Not so long ago a memory came up on my Facebook page. It gave me the option to share and I opted not to. I opted not to because the memory was of me patronizing someone’s business and them telling me to share my experience. As I am analyzing the situation years later I’m thinking “if would have shared my thoughts on it they’d probably dislike me or pin me as a hater”. Therefore, I chose to keep my feedback to myself with hopes and prayers that all was well with the next person who patronized their business.
In real life, folks always say “tell me what you think” but do they really possess the level of maturity, understanding, resilience and tough skin it takes to get some honest feedback? Are they going to utilize this information and look at things from other perspectives to help shape them to be better? Maybe, maybe not.
If you decide to give them what the F they asked for ensure it is in person; words get lost in translation via text and you can ensure they know your coming from a sincere place. When it comes to self, don’t ask if you aren’t ready to grow or if you fear hearing the truth about how others have experienced you.
~WorldWideWeez