I chose a new way of being in the 9 month of 2016. Too often I was the person who openly told folks “Maybe”.
I’m having a bar mitzvah, you coming? Maybe.
I’m having a wine and cheese tasting, you coming? Maybe.
I’m having a baby shower for my toy poodle, you coming? Maybe.
Maybe was my safe word. Maybe was a little bit of yes and a little bit of no. It was used to ease the conversation as a back up “just in case” I couldn’t come through. I didn’t like giving people solid answers because I didn’t feel comfortable restoring integrity and retracting my statement by sending that email, text or making that call when I couldn’t “show up” and do what was asked of me.
One third of my way of being was to be committed. Committed to my career and endeavors; committed to my man and most importantly committed to my word. Within that commitment that challenged me to now only have two answers, Yes or No; and if I say I’m doing something I do it. No questions asked.
Being an adult, evolving as an adult and being an entrepreneur has taught me the benefits of commitment. I now have more energy. I’m being strategic and planning things in advance. I’m showing up to more events. I’m meeting more amazing souls and I feel wonderful knowing that I do what I say. I encourage you to take on a new way of being or ensure that you keep your word because below are a few things that can occur…
1. If they invite you, go; because flakes are only good in bowls…
Being the flaky person prevents you from getting invites, evites and the “hey I was reaching out” text. You will most certainly be put on the back burner and will not come to mind when someone is looking for someone with your expertise when a job needs done. So if that event isn’t interfering with your schedule, morals and ethics – show up!
2. You’re Hurting Yourself
Quit saying you’re gonna do something and be about that life. You are responsible for you. Your parent or guardian [hopefully] raised you . You’ve received the tools and knowledge to handle your shit and it’s up to you to get on your shit and buss those dope moves. You bathe, shave and feed your self but now it’s time to level up. Do something extraordinary on your own. Come up with an idea and do as much work as you can prior to asking for help. You have to fight for you with every fiber in your body and leave the excuses at home, because everyone knows excuses are the tools of the weak and incompetent.
3. Shot! Shot! Shot! Shot-Shot! [take that shit!]
You’d take that shot without hesitation..right?
jesus juice, do-it fluid, adult beverages and so forth…what do they have in common you ask? Well more than likely you’ve been to a bar, lounge, club or shindig in which the homies were lining up shots. As they were lining up shots there were either two things going on in your head “no, or tonniiiiight we are getting fuccckkked up!” Why is it that it’s so easy for us to indulge in things that can hurt us immediately or in the long run? We’re always quick to buy a round of drinks but never “woke” enough to support people on the right path. So either take the shot [in life] or support your peer that went for theirs. So cut the shit, be a good friend or a good person to yourself and get busy!
~WorlWideWeez
[background courtesy of XXL Magazine]
I’m always contemplating on if I wanna accept invites. I’m always like “I do t like people”. As you said once you just do it you will be a better person. When I started accepting invites I had great times, met great people, and even learned new things. At the end of the day I was happy that I went. So I HEAR YOU 🙂
“I don’t like people” hahaha, I’m sure that has changed since you started accepting invites and having great times! Newness is fun as hell…Thanks for reading!!